How often do you find yourself trying to change or mold someone into what you want them to be? Sometimes this is on a conscious level but more often than not it is an entirely unconscious thing. We do not see people and things as they are, we see them as we are.
Every person with whom we come into contact and every event that happens to us is processed through our own limited belief system. It is our belief system that determines what is right and wrong for us. Since we each have different beliefs we do not necessarily agree on what is right and wrong. As a result, we need constant validation that our beliefs are accurate. Because of this, we choose friends that share beliefs similar to our own. Our friends support us through validating our beliefs.
When people expand their personal horizons, they often change their beliefs. Sometimes this can be exciting to others and at other times frightening. With the new belief system intact, it may no longer be possible to validate another's beliefs. When this happens people tend to draw away from each other since their basic needs of validation are no longer being met.
We can dress alike, talk alike, look alike but because each of us had entirely different environmental experiences, we each have our own unique beliefs. Even identical twins are not entirely identical where beliefs are concerned. The fact that one was born before the other is enough to create a belief in one mind that does not exist in the other mind. It is our individual beliefs that make us truly unique. It is in the diversity of those beliefs that we create great things. It is through the unusual beliefs of another that we learn and grow.
We do not need to fix another person. We only need to support them with love and respect in their process of growth. The road they choose for growth may be different than the one you or I would choose, but it is their right to choose. We do not have the right to impose our choices onto another. We only have the right to love them as they are, respect their right to choose, and to support them in love, knowing that everything else is just us living through our limited beliefs. It is through love that our beliefs expand and our hearts open to the diversity that makes us all great. We are all perfect right now. You have the choice to see your perfection or not—either way it is your choice!
Debbie Darling - © 2013 – The Presentation Pros™
Every person with whom we come into contact and every event that happens to us is processed through our own limited belief system. It is our belief system that determines what is right and wrong for us. Since we each have different beliefs we do not necessarily agree on what is right and wrong. As a result, we need constant validation that our beliefs are accurate. Because of this, we choose friends that share beliefs similar to our own. Our friends support us through validating our beliefs.
When people expand their personal horizons, they often change their beliefs. Sometimes this can be exciting to others and at other times frightening. With the new belief system intact, it may no longer be possible to validate another's beliefs. When this happens people tend to draw away from each other since their basic needs of validation are no longer being met.
We can dress alike, talk alike, look alike but because each of us had entirely different environmental experiences, we each have our own unique beliefs. Even identical twins are not entirely identical where beliefs are concerned. The fact that one was born before the other is enough to create a belief in one mind that does not exist in the other mind. It is our individual beliefs that make us truly unique. It is in the diversity of those beliefs that we create great things. It is through the unusual beliefs of another that we learn and grow.
We do not need to fix another person. We only need to support them with love and respect in their process of growth. The road they choose for growth may be different than the one you or I would choose, but it is their right to choose. We do not have the right to impose our choices onto another. We only have the right to love them as they are, respect their right to choose, and to support them in love, knowing that everything else is just us living through our limited beliefs. It is through love that our beliefs expand and our hearts open to the diversity that makes us all great. We are all perfect right now. You have the choice to see your perfection or not—either way it is your choice!
Debbie Darling - © 2013 – The Presentation Pros™
