Back in the late 90's Jack Canfield introduced me to a very interesting and effective technique to eliminate fear and trauma called the Callahan method. This was later called Emotional Freedom Technique or (EFT). I used it to eliminate a lot of my own fears. It’s easy to learn, has profound effects and the individual can do it for themselves with or without the help of a facilitator.
Last month I wrote my newsletter article on “lying”. In this week’s blog post, I want to answer the number one question many of you asked of me —“once you know someone is lying how do you confront them?” In this article we are going to deal with occasional liars and white liars. We are not going to deal with pathological or sociopathic liars. They need professional help because lying is practically an essential part of their personality.
Before we discuss the answer to your question, you need to know that you do not hold the power to change someone else’s behavior. You can however set up some pretty clear boundaries that hopefully lead the liar to make different choices where you are concerned. Here are some factors you should look at first:
Impact is defined as an “influence or effect”. Personal impact is literally the influence or effect you have on others. That impact can be positive or negative. Positive personal impact is crucial for success. It is the quality that enables you to influence others and your surroundings, achieve results and be an effective leader. The key is to recognize the impact you’re having on others then adapt your personal impact to get the results you want.
Your ability to establish positive and productive relationships in the business world is key to your success. The self-confidence you convey while speaking contributes greatly to how others view you. In addition, your ability to easily carry on a conversation or “small talk” tells others you are comfortable interacting in less formal settings. Confident interactions are tremendously valuable in establishing your personal and professional presence. The key to building rapport is to find a common topic that will put both you and the other person at ease. At a meeting, the rapport-building segment should be brief. At parties and receptions, it is ongoing.
Projecting a confident positive attitude and self-image results in positive experiences. Negativity yields more of the same, often setting you up for failure. If you want to succeed you must cultivate a positive attitude, be clearly motivated, balance your energy and be willing to work hard. In his book “The Power of Positive Thinking In Business”, Scott W. Ventrella interviews Horst Schulze, CEO of the award winning Ritz Carlton. He asks Mr. Schultz what business concepts he believed were the most important contributors to the prestigious success of the Ritz Carlton. Without hesitation Mr. Schultz responded, “People! Having motivated, energetic, hardworking people with great attitudes. That is the single most important factor.”
Honing your skills in these areas will serve as a cornerstone to your success:
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