“What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say.”
—Ralph Waldo Emerson
Quantum physics states that everything is energy. Everything vibrates at a frequency including your thoughts. Speaking out loud transforms our thoughts into sound vibrations. We are responsible for the energy we are sending out into the world at all times. Even if you look the part one hundred percent, people are paying attention to the word choices you use. Are you putting yourself down? How often do you say things like, “Gosh am I stupid; I’m having a bad hair day; what a moron; I’m dying to tell you something; I can’t seem to do anything right; why should I even bother trying; I’m so fat;” etc. When someone compliments you, do you say, “thank you” or do you make some excuse to lessen the compliment and diminish yourself in their eyes?
What kinds of things do you say about others to their face and behind their back? When someone cuts you off in traffic do you spew a litany of curse words? Do you use sarcasm when speaking about someone or something? Even used as humor these words hold vibrations that are detrimental to not only your health and well-being but also to the health and well-being of those around you. Start to pay attention to what kind of vibration you are putting out into the world. Is it negative or positive? Does it empower or diminish?
You can think you are just joking but remember communication is more about what others hear than what we actually say. In a world where communication is leaning more toward email, texting, blogging, and social networks and where our non-verbal communication and vocal inflection don’t always have an impact, is our message really clear and are we sending out the right message? Are we coming across as positive, empowering, informed and kind?
Studies show that language plays a huge part in how we see ourselves and the world at large. Words influence our mood, behavior, decision-making, and even our health. The words we speak and allow ourselves to listen to daily can literally make us sick. How often do you say “That makes me sick” or “You make me sick?”
Dr. Masaro Emoto, international researcher, entrepreneur and the author of The New York Times bestselling book The Hidden Messages of Water did numerous studies on the impact that words had on both water and their ice crystals. He found that the resonant energy of the words being used directly influenced the water and thus the ice crystals. Through his studies and his photographs he was able to show that words that held a negative vibration created ugly grotesque shapes and crystalized formations. Words that held positive vibrations such as “love,” “gratitude,” “beauty,” “peace,” “happiness,” “joy” created gorgeous, symmetrical, harmonious crystalline structures. He was able to transform dirty water that initially had ugly crystal formations into beautiful crystal formations merely by placing a higher vibratory word over the water. He was also able to take clean high vibratory water and by saying negative words such as “hate,” “anger,” “war,” “fear,” “jealousy,” he was able to turn the water crystals into ugly misshapen crystals showing the impact that words alone had on water depending on their vibratory rate. Since our bodies are made up of 70% water this has a huge impact on us as well.
I recently read two articles that I found to be of great interest that corroborate what we are looking at here. The first was about a young man who was doing very well in his business. His T-shirt Company was bringing in over 2 million dollars, a year but he was incredibly depressed. He explained that the T-shirts he made all had derogatory comments and words on them and even though they were “written with a sense of humor and clever sarcasm” he was sure that it was having a negative impact on his outlook. In order to sell his t-shirts he would wear them all day and the more he did so, the sadder and more emotionally debilitated he became.
The other story was about a young woman whose daughter had a set of pajamas that said “I’m not Sleepy” on them. Whenever the daughter wore them, she could not sleep. Yet on the nights she was wearing other pajamas she slept like a baby without getting up at all.
The good news is that by being more cognizant of the words we choose we can make sure we’re speaking and communicating through all mediums in a way that we wish to be seen and heard. When we are thinking or speaking we need to always be assessing if what we are about to say is Kind, Truthful and Necessary? We need to Think before we Speak. Before speaking ask yourself if what you are about to say fits this acronym for the word THINK. Is it: Thoughtful, Honest, Inspiring, Necessary and Kind?
You are not only being judged on how you dress, stand, sit, gesture, sound, look, move, etc. but also on the word choices you make and the intentions behind those word choices. Pay attention to the words you speak to others and your own personal self-talk. Since our words hold such incredible power, we have a responsibility to choose our words wisely and T.H.I.N.K. before we speak.
Debbie Darling, ©2015 The Presentation Pros
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